First things first: sexual pleasure is subjective. In the field of sexology, the researchers in that field typically have a degree in psychology, not medicine or physiology. The reason for that is the most research needed in that field is in regard to the psychology of sex, not the physiology of sex. Arousal, pleasure, and orgasm are not so mechanical – especially with women. To rephrase, you can do the same exact thing physically in two different sexual events – the first time might be an amazing sexual experience and the second time it won’t.
Men vs. Women
In the field of sex therapy, much of the treatment into men is in regard to dysfunction. Issues like erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation are common reasons to seek treatment. The treatment for women is typically arousal and sexual satisfaction – and can be much broader topics. With men, the causes are pretty simple. For women, trying to work through the issue can be difficult because female arousal, pleasure, and orgasm is more complex than with men. There aren’t as many discussions with what works for men, compared to what works for women – such as the types of orgasms a woman can have.
Bigger Penis = Bigger Problem
Does penis size, matter? Yes, it does. Most people understand that you can be too small, but not as many know that you can be too big. Dr. Andrew Siegel listed size discrepancy as one of the causes for painful sex:
Size discrepancy with partner – The vagina is an incredibly accommodating organ capable of tremendous stretch and expansion—think vaginal delivery of a 10-lb. baby—so this is relatively rare, but the combo of a woman with petite anatomy coupled with an outsized male can be a formula for pain. A lengthy penis can strike the cervix or vaginal fornix and a penis with formidable girth may prove excessive for a narrow vagina, resulting in “collision dyspareunia.”Our Greatest Wealth is Health; When Sex Hurts
So a large penis can be an issue for many women. Some men might think being too big is still a badge of honor, but it can also be a reason your spouse seeks sex, elsewhere. Men with larger penises need to make sure that more time is dedicated to arousal, and maybe have some lube on hand. Otherwise, it may not be the good experience you both were hoping for.
Does a Bigger Penis Feel Better?
So, if the penis is not too long or thick, does it feel better? It certainly can be an advantage, but it’s important to note that if a woman has had several male partners, it isn’t always going to be true that the largest man was her favorite in bed. It is true that some women do desire a larger penis, in the sense they do like having what is described a a filled up feeling, but the vast majority of women do enjoy an averaged size penis. It really comes down to friction and pressure. The average or slightly above average penis is plenty to provide adequate stimulation for almost any partner, and as mentioned earlier, sex for most women is not so mechanical. No matter what the penis size, you can be considered a bad sexual partner.
The Bottom Line
Does penis size matter? Yes. Does a larger penis equal better sex? No. In fact the perfect penis chosen by a study asking women is well within the average to slightly above average range.